Consistency over time, not perfection.
Why New Year's resolutions fail and how to finally succeed. The art of starting over. Every year the calendar turns to January 1st, and we collectively experience the "Fresh Start effect". It's a psychological reset button that convinces us that the "new us" will be disciplined, organized and energetic, even if the "old us" was tired and overwhelmed just 24 hours before. We set ambitious goals: lose 20 kg, cycle Tronheim - Oslo in record time, change our lifestyle to a healthier one.
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By the second week of February, the gyms are empty, the good plans are forgotten, and the determination has faded. This cycle happens not because we lack willpower, but because we fundamentally misunderstand how human behavior works. We try to change our lives through brute force rather than strategy. Rather, by being smart and thinking positively.
If you're tired of setting goals that you abandon by spring, it's time to change your approach. Here are the most important lessons for a new year, what I've learned from failing and what I've learned to do to make them stick.
The biggest mistake I made was focusing on the finish line. We obsess over “losing 20 kg” or “exercising 1 hour every day.” However, a goal is just a desired outcome. To achieve that, you need a solid and smart plan
Your schedule is the collection of daily habits that get you to your goal. If your goal is to exercise for 1 hour every day, your schedule is the schedule that gets you started with a short session every day. If you completely ignored your goal and just focused on your schedule, you would still get results. This year, stop worrying about the result and start obsessing about the routine.
When we make New Year’s resolutions, we usually treat our lives like an empty room waiting to be furnished. We decide to add a workout routine, a habit, and a meditation practice. But your life is not an empty room; it’s probably already cluttered with obligations, stress, and old habits.
You can’t build a new life on top of an overloaded schedule. Before you add anything new, you have to subtract something old. If you want to wake up an hour earlier, you have to subtract an hour of late-night television. If you want to save money, you have to subtract a specific spending habit. To say “yes” to the new year, you have to say “no” to parts of the old.
Most New Year’s resolutions fail because they are “outcome-based.” You tell yourself, “I want to run a 5K.” This requires you to force yourself to do something you don’t naturally do. A more powerful approach is “identity-based” habits.
Instead of focusing on what you want to achieve, focus on who you want to be. Stop saying, “I’m trying to cut out sugar” and start saying, “I’m eating healthier.” When offered a donut, a healthier person will say no, not because they’re on a diet, but because that’s not who they are. When you change your identity, habits naturally follow.
Think positively, and positive things will happen; be kind to yourself, not hard.
Now that you have shifted your mindset, here is my suggestions for a practical, step-by-step guide to executing your resolutions this year.
Set “micro-achievements”Don't worry about grand results this year. Focus on your systems, forgive your slip-ups, and keep showing up.
And finally, be kind to yourself this year, don't be hard, don't punish, but reward yourself, even for small victories. I wish you a wonderful new year. I believe in you🫶
A tip if you need some inspiration on how to get started with exercise and build a exercise habit that sticks, read this story
